✨ Love is a decision ✨ ✨ Love is a decision ✨

Today, as I celebrate my husband and daughter (they share a birthday right after Valentine’s 💖), I’m reminded of something I’ve learned in life: love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a choice we make every day. 💛

Whether it’s love for your partner, your family, or yourself, making that decision shapes the life we live. I’ve explored this deeply in my book Love, where I share the many types of love and how they impact our relationships and personal growth.

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I have a new podcast episode. Money Mindset for Entrepreneurs: Identity Shift to Financial Freedom.

This episode is a MUST-listen if you want to grow — personally and financially. Freda Nkansah is an absolute gem and really understands entrepreneurship and money mindset at a deep level.

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I decided to jump on the ChatGPT Caricature Trend.

Here's a brief snapshot of my journey — with a little help from ChatGPT based on the prompts I shared.

What do you think?
Has anyone else tried this yet?

Let’s Talk Emotional Children If your child is clingy, emotional or struggles to separate from you…
this is not a parenting failure.

It’s actually a strength.

Many parents quietly worry:
“Am I making my child too dependent?”
“Shouldn’t they be more independent by now?”
“Am I creating anxiety by comforting them too much?”

These questions don’t come from weakness.
They come from care.

And often, from a misunderstanding about how confidence actually develops.

One of the most influential attachment researchers in child development, Mary Ainsworth, studied how children relate to their caregivers.
What she found changed the way we understand independence.
Children do not become confident by being pushed away from closeness.
They become confident by having what she called a secure base.

What is a secure base?
It means your child knows:
- You are emotionally available
- You respond when they are distressed
- You are safe to return to
- And when children feel that kind of safety?
They explore more.
Not less.

The Myth of Early Independence
We live in a culture that equates independence with strength.
So parents are often told:
“Don’t be too attached.”
“Don’t create clinginess.”
“Don’t let them rely on you.”
But attachment science tells the opposite story.

Secure children don’t rely on you forever.
They rely on you until they don’t need to.

That’s a crucial difference.

In Ainsworth’s research, the children who explored most confidently were not the least attached.

They were the ones who knew they could return to a calm, responsive adult if needed.

Security first.
Independence second.
Not the other way around.

Reframing “Clingy”

Confidence doesn’t grow from distance.
It grows from connection.

If your child:
- Stays close in new environments
- Needs reassurance at drop-off
- Comes back to check you’re still there
- Seeks comfort when overwhelmed
Pause before labelling it as weakness.

Often, it’s evidence of a healthy secure bond.
- It isn’t spoiling.
- It isn’t coddling.
- It’s attachment working as it should.

In a world that increasingly expects children to be independent earlier and earlier, many parents feel pressure to “harden” their children for success.

But resilience is not built through emotional withdrawal.
It is built through emotional safety.
The most independent children are often the most securely attached.
When you offer comfort, responsiveness and presence, you are not creating dependence. You are laying the foundations for independence.

So if your child wants to be close to you, seeks you out, or treats you like their whole world…It’s because, right now, you are.
And that’s not something to rush away from.
You’re building security.
And security builds the confidence to step into the world. 💛

#childdevelopment #attachmenttheory #maryainsworth #secureattachment #parentingsupport #raisingconfidentchildren #mentalhealthineducation

Happy Valentine’s Day. ❤️

This day does not have to be about waiting, looking, or wishing. If you have that desire for that love in your heart, he exists and is looking fo you.

So, sit back, close your eyes, imagine one moment of that life you are living together. See it in pictures in your mind. Are you walking on a beach holding hands? Feel his hand in yours. Feel the sand between your toes. Hear the ocean. Feel the warmth of the sun on your face and the wind in your hair. Now notice how you FEEL with your man looks into your eyes with that unconditional love. Hold onto that feeling.

When you sit in this feeling of love and gratitude, that’s how you call him into your life.

If you sit in, “I’m sad” “I’m alone. “Where is he?” Or “it’s never going to happen for me”, that feeling or energy is of lack or wanting which means you don’t have. So by Universal Law you will get more of the wanting, lack, and I don’t have. That’s what you are calling in.

So shift. Sit in gratitude and call him in.

Today is Valentine’s Day.

We often think about showing love to others.
But sustainable performance also asks for something else:

✨ How well are you caring for your own energy?

High performers are often intentional with their time.
Far fewer are intentional with recovery.

The weekend isn’t just time off.
It’s a recovery window.

Athletes don’t train at full intensity every day.
Neither should you.

👉 Maybe the most powerful form of self-leadership today is this:
protecting your energy like it matters. Because it does.

#sustainableperformance #leadershipenergy #energymanagement #brainathlete #selfleadership

The paradox is that people focus on how to save electricity, when in truth what they most need is to increase the light within themselves. How?

With X39, a biological activator in the form of a patch.

Forget the meter and take care of yourself first.

𝐄𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐰𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐗𝟑𝟗 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐝𝐚𝐲.

You are an incredible source of energy — you just need to give your body the chance to do what it already knows how to do, with the help of light. 💥

Give yourself the greatest gift: try X39 and see how to step out of the darkness. 😘